On Wed, 14 May 1997 20:00:29 -0400 Stephanie Steely <[log in to unmask]>
>Bette Tomlinson wrote:
>> I am shocked and dismayed at the lack of response to this
>> conversational inspirer...
>> Here is one idea--I thought that it was interesting that the men of
>> Ireland were bemused, rather than threatened. I took this to
>> confidence in the impossibility of American bachelors competing
>> might be justified, unless they happen to be Celts...)
> I've been trying to restrain myself. I am surprised Mr. (and
>I use the term loosely) Campbell would be interested in Irish women.
>In spite of all that rubbish about American women being too career
>oriented, the real problem is that he is insecure and wants a woman he
>can dominate. It is the old mail-order bride syndrome -- get a non-
>English speaking woman from a Third World country, bring her to the
>U.S. where she has no friends or family and cannot communicate well
>enough to make friends quickly, live in an isolated location, and
>she's yours to manipulate and control in any ways your shriveled
>little heart desires. I'd think Irish women would be way
>for what Mr. Campbell and his clients have in mind. First, they speak
>English. Second, they have received good basic educations. Third,
>they would be able to adapt to the culture and make friends quickly.
>Irish women have far too much on the ball for this lot of losers.
> Before the men on the list go ape, I do not possess a sour
>attitude toward men in general or toward most American men. But I
>am infuriated by men who can only deal with women through weakness.
>Where I live, there are men who shop for dates in the obituaries.
>They look for older, single women listed as the sole survivor of a
>parent. Some are looking for women with money. Others are looking
>to take advantage of vulnerable women who are feeling lonely and
>perhaps a bit desperate. One of my co-workers was snagged by one of
>these neanderthals following the death of her mother. The man is
>bleeding her dry financially. I depise anyone -- male or female --
>who exploits other people for personal gain and I think that is
>exactly what Mr. Campbell and his buddies are playing at.
I shant go ape because you are absolutely right. Back in the late 60's,
early 70's, there was a group of us in our 30's who frequented a particular local bar. One of the favorite pastimes of several of the men was to
find women who were divorcing and, in a word, prey on them, run a "train"
on them. While I was married at the time, and not wanting to come off as
Goodie Two-Shoes, I'll admit that I was as open to "adventure" as the
next person...but this was like shooting fish in a barrel...but, then, I
was never one for the old "get 'em drunk" routine either. In either
case, how can you do something that takes two if one is incapacitated in
one way or another???? What you can do, in such circumstances, you can
also essentially do alone...and probably should!
My boss went to Russia for a wife and she, all too well, understands the
American financial system. Next year makes three that they've been
married and we all believe that once she's an American citizen, it'll be
"Hasta la vista, Baby!"... and more power to her.