Scott Robert Ladd wrote:
"My wife, when pregnant with our first child, was called a "spic" and
nearly run down on a Denver Street. She walked into a Denver cafe
once, and the staff completely ignored her. These aren't isolated
And experience has taught me that "white" people don't experience
racism in their personal lives. They may SEE racism, and they may
recognize it, and they may be completely unprejudiced themselves,
but they do not UNDERSTAND prejudice because it never really happens.
White people can stay in a white world; minorities must forge ahead
in a world created by whites."
In our instance, it has been through our children. After years of painful lessons that taught us we would never have children by a traditional method, we began working toward adoption. We never made a specification as to racial preference, believing that in our family there would be a similarity to someone (various branches include Native Americans, Japanese and hispanics). Our son came to us first - anglo/hispanic. We would often get stares, but then I had grown up with stares, when my father was not with the family (I don't resemble my mother or brother). Occassionally we have gotten remarks such as, "Of course, you accepted hispanic children so you could get children faster..." We did specify hispanic with our daughter (child 2), so that our son would not be alone in the family. We have been served last in restaurants, I have stood back and watched my children ignored by sales clerks, etc. Things change when I stand with them, which galls hell out of me. I could go on but you can list or top mine at every point, I know. I have had to refuse transfers and possible promotions because it would mean moving to communities that were unfriendly to racially mixed families.
"And that's one reason I'm trying to make white people - my people -
understand that racism CAN touch their lives, through publicizing
the Scottish Clearances and the Irish famine. If we let injustice
happen to anyone, we allow it to happen to everyone - including
Hear you. I wish you luck. My own opinion of human nature where the dominant group is concerned is very skeptical of your chances for success. By the way - your checks may come a bit less regularly but you have your dignity and that is worth more than steady pay.